Hey there, beautiful soul!
Where do I even begin? You embody everything beautiful, radiant, and life-worth-living. In a world that often tries to confine beauty to narrow standards, you stand tall and proud, defying expectations and blazing your magnificent trail. Oh, how you captivate and inspire! Your curves are like gentle waves, gracefully shaping the landscape of your being. With each curve, you tell a story of resilience, of strength, of unapologetic self-love. You are a masterpiece, a living testament to the beauty of diversity. So consider this my love letter to you, and to plus size body positivity in all its glory.
Take up space
Sway and shimmy, strut and sashay, to fill the room with your infectious energy. Don’t shrink yourself to fit into someone else’s mold; we need you to expand, to thrive, to take up space with pride. Your confidence should be like a beacon, guiding others to embrace their own unique beauty.
Confidence, you are the secret ingredient, the magic sauce that transforms ordinary moments into extraordinary experiences. Exude it from every pore, so you can radiate an aura of self-assurance that is simply irresistible. Remind us that beauty isn’t just skin deep; it’s a state of mind, a reflection of the love and acceptance we have for ourselves. And confidence isn’t something you have to wait for until your body changes. It’s a practice, and it’s contagious.
You are a force to be reckoned with, a celebration of life in all its glorious forms. You remind us that beauty knows no bounds, that perfection is an illusion, and that true happiness lies in embracing who we are, flaws and all. So, here’s to you, my loves. Here’s to the curves that defy gravity, the bodies that tell stories, and the confidence that lights up the world. May we always remember to cherish and celebrate the abundance that surrounds us, both within ourselves and in others.
Plus size body positivity: beauty doesn’t come in one size
This is an ode to abundance in all its glorious forms. Right now I’m talking about bodies. Yes, those amazing vessels that carry us through life’s adventures. Society has a knack for dictating what beauty should look like. But guess what? Beauty doesn’t fit into a one-size-fits-all package. It comes in all shapes, sizes, and colors. It’s in the way your smile lights up a room, the sparkle in your eyes when you’re passionate about something, and the way you carry yourself with confidence.
Your curves aren’t something to be hidden or ashamed of; they’re something to be celebrated. They’re a testament to your strength, your resilience, and your uniqueness. So, flaunt those curves like the boss you are! Whether you’re rocking a killer dress, a pair of jeans that hug you in all the right places, or your birthday suit, own it with pride. You’re not a before photo. You’re the main character.
Representation matters
And let’s not forget about the power of representation. Seeing bodies like yours represented in the media, in fashion, and in everyday life is crucial for building self-love and acceptance. That’s why it’s so important to celebrate diversity in all its forms. So, shout out to the models, influencers, and everyday heroes who are breaking down barriers and paving the way for a more inclusive world.
Plus size self love isn’t always easy
But hey, self-love isn’t always easy. We live in a world that’s constantly bombarding us with unrealistic beauty standards and toxic messaging. It’s enough to make anyone feel like they’re not enough. But here’s the thing: you are more than enough, just as you are. Your worth isn’t determined by the size of your waist or the number on the scale. It’s determined by the love you have for yourself and the love you share with others.
So, how do we cultivate that love? It starts with embracing who you are, unapologetically and wholeheartedly. It’s about finding joy in movement, nourishing your body with foods that make you feel good, and surrounding yourself with people who lift you up. It’s about practicing self-care, setting boundaries, and prioritizing your mental and emotional well-being. It can even be as simple as curating your feed: follow people whose bodies look like yours, and unfollow anyone who makes you feel small.
And let’s not forget about the importance of language. Words have power, my friend. So, let’s use them wisely. Instead of “flaws,” let’s call them “unique features.” Instead of “problem areas,” let’s call them “beautiful parts of who you are.”
Your pleasure deserves to fit, too
Body positivity doesn’t stop at the bedroom door, and neither should your confidence. You deserve sex, intimacy, and solo play that feels good in the body you have right now. Not the body you’re working toward, not the body you had five years ago, and definitely not the body society keeps telling you that you should have. Your body is worthy of pleasure exactly as it is. Full stop.
As a fat femme myself, I know firsthand that navigating pleasure in a bigger body sometimes requires a little creativity. Certain positions might not be comfortable, some toys can be awkward to hold or maneuver, and sometimes the advice you find online seems to assume everyone has the same body type. Spoiler alert: we don’t! And that’s perfectly fine. Pleasure isn’t one-size-fits-all, so why should our approach to it be?
If a position doesn’t feel comfortable or a toy isn’t working for you, that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with your body. Sometimes it’s a design problem, an accessibility issue, or simply a matter of finding something better suited to your needs. Longer handles, flexible designs, adjustable straps, supportive positioning pillows, and hands-free options can make a world of difference. It’s not about changing your body to accommodate pleasure. It’s about finding ways to make pleasure accommodate your body.
And while we’re at it, can we stop treating pleasure in bigger bodies like it’s some special challenge that needs to be overcome? Fat people have amazing sex, enjoy incredible orgasms, and deserve access to products that actually consider our bodies during the design process. We shouldn’t have to settle for whatever happens to work.
That’s part of why I created the Plus-Size Finds collection at Horny Stoner. I wanted to make it a little easier for fellow plus-size pleasure seekers to discover products worth exploring without having to dig through hundreds of options. Think of it as a starting point for finding toys and accessories that offer a little more flexibility, comfort, accessibility, and room to play. At the end of the day, your pleasure belongs to you. You don’t need to shrink yourself, twist yourself into uncomfortable positions, or wait until you feel more confident in your body to enjoy it. You deserve to take up space, explore what feels good, and have a damn good time doing it.
With all my love
I want you to know this: you are worthy of love, respect, and admiration exactly as you are. Your body is a work of art, a masterpiece in progress, and a vessel for your soul. So, embrace your abundance, celebrate your curves, and never forget that you are loved beyond measure.
With all my love,
Carly S.
P.S. Don’t forget to spread the love! Share this letter with someone who needs a reminder of just how amazing they are.
